We use this more often to express our feelings towards others. It’s kinda over used for people around us. But how many of us have actually said or meant that to ourselves?
Do you love yourself enough? Most of our answers would be “No”.
I’m talking about that love, which grows inside you and heals you. I’m talking about that love, which you forgot to give yourself but sending out to others wholeheartedly. We spend hours on comforting others and making sure that they are doing fine.
Yet most of us hurt ourselves for no reason. Not physically. But mentally. We hate our body shapes. We hate our scars. We hate our own skin color. We hurt ourselves because we constantly put so much pressure on ourselves to compete with standards. We try harder to fit into a box which is clearly not made for us.
Why? Because we seek acceptance. We seek permissions.
When you love someone, you love every bit of them regardless their flaws. You don’t compare. You just love them for their heart. You accept that person for him/her self. Because that’s what true love is.
So do you truly love yourself ?
It’s a question that you have to ask yourself.
Most of the times, we wait for love to come into our lives through someone else and expect our lives to be perfect. We want someone else to give us the permission to be happy.
We often forget that this life is purely in our hands. We forget the fact that we need to love ourselves as we want us to be loved by someone else. The key is, YOU. If you don’t accept yourself, no one can ever make you feel accepted.
Most of us underestimate the importance of “self love”. We don’t see its power to bring us joy and happiness within. We think the foundation for a perfect relationship is trust and understanding among each other. But in reality self love comes first. We should love ourselves first in order to love someone else. Love should grow within yourself to spread it out. How can you ever heal someone else when you’re broken inside.
I’m trying to explain the importance of self love because it changed my life. I am someone who struggled to love myself. I constantly ignored and hated myself because of a scar. It was so hard to see people staring at me like I was abnormal. Even I got bullied when I was a kid for having that scar. I have cried my eyes out and even have locked myself in my room for days because I hated myself.
Time went by. I was tired of crying and waiting it to disappear. I was tired of hating myself. And I realized that crying is not gonna fix it unless I change the way I see myself. Because I can’t control people and their judgments. But I can accept my scar and keep on going with it. All I can do is to love my scar and my uniqueness. My scar taught me to live even when it is so hard to cope up with. It made me strong.
Today, I don’t care if people stare at me. I don’t hide myself anymore. Because I don’t have to. Because no one has to.
A scar never makes you weak or any less. It always makes you strong and powerful. It teaches you to deal with life. It teaches you that when you start loving yourself and accepting yourself, it can become your crown. It’s not just about those visible scars but also the scars lies beneath your soul. All your insecurities and flaws.
You are unique and special in your own way. You are beautiful both inside and out. You don’t have to pretend and live a fake life. If you don’t start loving yourself, no one will ever do that for you as you deserve it. Yes! You deserve so much love in your life.
I’m telling you this because, ever since I started accepting my flaws and myself, I actually started living. I realized that I’ve been missing out on a lot in my life during those days I spent on crying and hating myself.
Now I think it’s your chance.
It’s time to change the way you see yourself